If you are a single dad, the world thinks you have no idea what you are doing as a parent. There are very few quality resources for single divorced dads that don’t suck. 95% of the parenting websites are geared towards women, and most of the remaining 5% of the websites for single dads treat you like you are an idiot. There are a few exceptions, but I will get to those in a moment. First, let’s take a look at some popular men’s parenting websites that do think that you are an idiot.
Here are some examples:
Sometimes after a particularly painful divorce … a dad may not really see and understand the impact of that event on the kids.Very Well Family
Because we are men, and all men are obviously idiots, we must have no idea of the impact of divorce on our kids.
Fathers are susceptible to dumb mistakes during the divorce process — mistakes that drain their pocketbooks, hurt their relationships with their kids, and wreak havoc in every corner of their lives. Just because “dumb” and “dad” both start with the letter “D,” doesn’t mean you have to be that guy.Huffington Post
How many articles have you read that singled out the mom for making dumb mistakes in divorce that hurt their kids and also directly correlates their gender to being dumb? That’s what I thought.
No words exist to adequately describe what a father goes through when he gets divorced… You may be able to call every night and read them a bedtime story, go to parent-teacher conferences, and attend their sporting events and ballet recitals. Whatever it is, your kids need you involved. You didn’t get a divorce from them. You’re their father. Forever.All Pro Dad
Of course this was written by a woman. Once again, an extremely condescending take on what is obvious common sense for any decent parental figure.
City Dads Group is an amazing resource for dads, founded in 2008, by two friends and collegues, Lance Somerfeld and Matt Schneider. They were also tired of all the websites, blogs and magazines that catered to mom, but left dad isolated. So, they started a local dads group in NYC to provide these resources they felt were lacking for us dads. In 2013 the group ballooned to over 900 members, and they decided to take their mission nationwide.
Now, City Dads Group has a huge online presence with amazing blog articles, podcast episodes, local meetings in major metropolitan cities throughout the country, and even “dad bootcamps.” They are extremely active on social media, including Twitter.
I recognize and appreciate the hard work and dedication that City Dads Group exhibits in their passion for helping the dads of the world.
Reddit is essentially the largest forum on the internet, offering just about any topic for like-minded people to share, post, discuss, or just read about. This is why Reddit is one of the best resources for single dads.
Please be warned… you will find your share of internet trolls on Reddit. So, just like anywhere else, you do have to weed out some bullshit to get to the good stuff. But there is plenty of good stuff there. Dads talking about finance, relationships, and of course lots and lots of parenting. Because, as you now know, not all dads are idiots.
Fatherly is one of the most popular website resources for dads that don’t suck. Their mission is to empower men to raise great kids and lead more fulfilling adult lives. They also offer advice in the form of regular blog articles, resources for dads, a video series, and a podcast. They have even written a book, “To Me, He Was Just Dad.”
The Good Men Project started in 2009 by founder, Tom Matlack, with a mission to have an international conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. The blog is outstanding, posting multiple articles each day in the areas of parenting, sex & relationships, politics, ethics, and more.
There are multiple writers on the site, all offering their own view of the world of parenting as a dad. One of my all-time favorite articles by the Good Men Project is, “Explaining White Privilege to a Broke White Person.”
I really like The Single Daddy Daily, because it shares a similar mission to what I try to do here, at DamonDietz.com. The two founders, Drew Manning and Evan DeMarco, offer their insights to the world of single parenting as divorced dads. They do not claim to experts at parenting, but their blog and podcast are one of the best resources for single divorced dads that don’t actually suck.
I enjoy the recipes section of their blog as well, because of the healthy and delicious meals they share with their readers. Far too often, all the cooking blogs are written by women, for women, and include paragraphs of bloviation about their favorite smell or color or memory that relates to that recipe. Sometimes, you just want a damn recipe! That is what The Single Dad Daily gives you; delicious recipes, without the bullshit.
I am writing this while sitting at my dining room table, while the world is a hectic whirlwind of madness around me. I am attempting to keep my sanity while trying to write, teach my kids from home because of a pandemic, eat healthy foods when all I want to do is eat ice cream all day, and navigate the stress of co-parenting with my ex, all while being secluded from the social interaction I desperately crave as an extrovert.
These 5 Resources for Single Divorced Dads have saved me during this time. I hope that I can provide my readers with half as much value as I have received from these 5 resources. I enjoy the articles, podcasts, and email newsletters that I receive daily. Ultimately, it has been what is keeping me sane.
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