Goal: To learn how to become a better father in 30 days. Each day I will implement one new idea, concept, or strategy that will ultimately improve the relationship I have with my kids. I am going to strive to learn how to become a better dad in less than one month.
I personally believe that to become a better father, you must first become a better person. There is very little chance that you can show someone the love, respect and affection that they deserve if you aren’t attending to those same needs for yourself. So, I made it a priority to craft my personal mission statement while I was working with my life coach a few years ago.
The first step to developing your personal mission statement is to determine your core values. Make sure you have 10-15 minutes available for this exercise, as you don’t want to feel rushed. Let’s get started.
Step 1: Brainstorming
From the list below, select and write down approximately 5-10 core values that represent your beliefs, and that strongly resonates with who you are as a person. If you have a difficult time in making some selections, you should look back in your life to identify when you were the happiest, most confident, and most proud.
Being the best
Making a difference
Step 2: Prioritizing
Now it is time to prioritize your top values. This step is traditionally the most difficult for people because logically it is tough to discern how one value can be more important than another similar value. However, this is the most important step.
Start by writing the top values that you selected from the above list, in no particular order. Next, compare one value to the next on your list, by asking yourself, “if I could only choose one of these, which would I choose?” Continue to work through your list, comparing each value to the next, until your list is in the right order of importance to you. If you are still stuck, try assigning a point to each core value, of let’s say, 1-10. Then you can rank your top values based on the points you assigned them.
Step 3: Identifying Your Top Three Values
Congratulations! You have now prioritized your values in order of importance. If you look at the top three values on your list, these are the values that represent your beliefs and you identify with best. These are the three beliefs we are going to use to create your personal mission statement.
SIDE NOTE: Here are my top three core values…
- Helping People
Step 4: Crafting Your Mission Statement
Your personal mission statement defines who you are as a person, and more importantly, a father. It shows you how to achieve your life purpose, and in times of doubt, gives you the reassurance that you are seeking out that purpose for a reason. Everything you do should be done within the constraints and purpose of living out that personal mission.
Utilizing the core values that you identified with the exercise above, you should now work on creating your mission statement. Here are some things to keep in mind.
- Write with your legacy in mind. How do you want to be remembered?
- Keep it short; two to three sentences.
- Don’t forget about others. Who do you want to influence, help, or have an impact on?
- Be true to yourself.
My Personal Mission Statement
“To achieve my highest potential and live my best life. To influence and impact those around me with my energy, excitement, and positive attitude.”
Here is a sample template to help you if you are still a bit stuck in crafting your mission statement.
I want to [INSERT GOAL HERE]. I will achieve this through [INSERT CORE VALUE HERE] so I can [INSERT IMPACT HERE].
Here are a few personal mission statements of some of the most successful and powerful people in the world. You can see how they are living their life and how it compares to the personal mission statement they have created for themselves.
There is nothing more powerful in life than living with purpose. I believe that living by my three core values, as well as referencing my personal mission statement each day, has allowed me to live my best life. It has allowed me to continue to grow as a person and as a father. My personal mission statement has made me a better dad.
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